The BIG Day! 2/7/13

There had been a couple times during the last 8 weeks that I felt maybe I was in labor – one was super early and scared the midwife – I was dehydrated, that solved the problem and the contractions stopped. Then each week 4 weeks prior I would have so many consistent contractions I thought – ok maybe tonight? Then they would stop – and I would keep praying Lord not tonight we are not ready – no bags packed and not mentally ready to have a new born.

Then 2 weeks prior I asked David when he would like the baby to be born – time of day and week day – I reminded him I had no control of it, but I would pray and see what happened. God is so much bigger than our thoughts, he does desire to give us good gifts, the desires of our hearts if we are seeking him with our whole hearts and we are being diligent to put Him first above all our petty circumstances. (keep in mind when I am pregnant my spiritual awareness is higtened so much – I love praying and reading the word – it brings me so much life, my spirit is in tune with God.) David’s desire was that I would go into labor towards the end of the week and we would be able to get a good nights rest before hand. I had told David I feel like this labor is going to be very good and the way we will know for sure if I am labor is one : if I throw up or if my water breaks, other wise we are not going to budge. Because I was so tired of being in ‘false labor’.

Wednesday night 2/6 – I went to a church dinner hang out time with the kids – it was so yummy – clam spaghetti and bread! I ate a good size, but I didn’t feel like I over ate at all. I get home that night, get the boys in bed, David got home at 8pm from class. I was watching tv and all of a sudden I go – get me a bowl – blah! Out came dinner..everything. after I was done I hear David go – you didn’t chew very well! I looked up after everything and said with a big smile – I think we are in labor! Let’s get rest tonight have everything ready and hopefully soon we’ll be done.

We got rest that night, I woke up at 6:45 with contractions and was super happy. I told David – go to work, it be great if your home by lunch time and then we will have a baby then. David went to work and was home by 11:30. In the mean time, I got the boys ready for the day, everything was good. I called the midwife – she goes call back when you feel like you need to be in the birthing tub – b/c you might not be in labor – I told her ok we will – but I am having a baby today and we are going to get things ready and we will be over. Ok give me 20 minute heads up and I will be ready for you. I let her know we would be there around 1pm.

I talked with my friend Jamie on the phone – who also had an amazing easy delivery recently. Just talking to her – I was like Jamie – this is so incredibly easy – I’m not sure if I believe I am in labor. I think you are, labor does not have to be hard – intense yes, painful no. They were 3 to 5 minutes apart lasting from 40 to 60 seconds at a time. I just walked around the house and spoke over my body – be relaxed and at peace.

She called our mutual friend Julie to have her call me to come over and help me wrap things up. Talked with Julie and she came over at 11:15. She made brownies, did the dishes and straightened up the house – while the boys were finishing up a movie and Anita (grandma) was on her way to come get the boys. David came home and loaded the car. Anita came around 12 and got the boys. Julie finished things up, and we made it to The Birth House by 1:20 I think.

I had a 39 week appointment the day prior – still at 3cm. And I was still praying and believing on how cool it would be to have a baby on 2/14. After I had thrown up on 2/6 I was super happy to think her birthday could be on the 7th instead of the 14th – I had so much peace about it – even tho I had asked so many people to pray she would be born on the 14th – thankfully God knew better than me! I love the number 7, 3 and 7 are my favorite numbers – also 7 is the number of completion – which Jasmine definitely completes are family! 


Constance my midwife – checks me – only 4cm – I was happy! She wanted me to be progressing more for me to be admitted into the birth house. We took a good hour walk around town. Saw the lamas. I was over joyed because instead of rain – it was bright and sunny out, warm to my liking – it was not raining or snowing – it was such a beautiful perfect day weather wise!

2:30pm – she checked me again – 5cm! 5 more to go. We got situated at 3pm I got into the hot bath tub – SO relaxing! At 6pm – I was a prune and time to get out..getting bored. During those three hours the water helped a ton with the contractions – I listened to music, drank Gatorade and relaxed. Getting in the tub there was only a 50/50 chance that being in the water would help my body to continue to dilate and or make my body dilate – I wanted to chance it!  


We walked around for 10 minutes. Then I asked her, please check me and break my water, I’m ready. So I laid down on the bed – you are a 6. How disappointing!!! I relaxed for 3 hours and got only to a 6ish. Boo! Break my water – I’m having this baby please. 



At this time it was 6:10pm – Constance breaks my water and the contractions are coming stronger and harder as my legs are shaking due to the intensity of the contractions. Constance knows at that point she needs to break the news that there was too much meconium in the water so I would have to be a transfer…she waits to tell me in between contractions and was very kind and loving about breaking the news to me. The danger being baby’s first poop could be in babies lungs, we don’t know if she has any or a lot, so at the hospital they will have better care for a safe delivery and be able to watch over her better. This broke my heart – I so wanted to have a water birth and avoid the hospital. – however in reality I knew if going to the hospital was what is the absolute best for our situation of course we would go willingly. We don’t always get what we want in life..we get what we need.

Wrapping things up:

So it’s about 6:20pm – Constance is on the phone getting everything ready for us to be a trandfer to the hospital (7 minutes by car) I’m having intense contractions and in between them David is asking me what needs to come into the hospital, Julie and the student midwife are by my side, I throw up maybe 2 times. Then it’s 6:45pm. The plan was the arrive at the hospital at 7pm, so a 6:45 departure.

It’s 6:50pm and they tell me it’s time to go – Julie and the student midwife help me up, I go ‘I have to push’ student midwife goes ‘no don’t, hold it and breath through it’…I’m thinking Lady you are crazy..I’m not going to ignore my body…sorry! (David and the midwife missed this b/c they were making sure the cars were set..we walk outside at this point David is on my side and Constance is on my other side walking me to the car – I stop and go ‘ I have to push’ much water/other liquids came gush out..Constance go ‘Alright! Back inside!!!

I make it to the door frame of the birthing room where I originally had hoped to be giving birth in. got on all fours, gave maybe 2 more pushes and out came the baby! I remember hearing Constance saying, someone grab towels put them under her, I need gloves, pass me sterile gloves – which I am amazed she had time to get her gloves on. I remember David was right behind me helping – he passed the towels to Constance and gave the time of her birth – 6:58 pm. Jasmine was covered head to toe with baby’s first poop. Constance then cleaned out Jasmines throat and checked her and she was breathing just fine..then passed her up to me. Priceless moment. I kept asking is she a girl??everyone said you have to check..babies come out mess and their cord is covering up their parts..I was so nervous and excited so I had David check..yup all girl! SCORE!



After we made it to the bed the midwife checked the baby out more to make sure she was still clear..and she was. She nursed quickly afterwards and the student midwife goes – she nurses like a 6 month old!!


I celebrated with a Twix bar (did that after all 3 births) and of course brownies and vanilla ice cream!!

The next 2 days were the most intense with pain, yuck L. I did start taking my placenta pills – helped SO much with the recovery part of my body and gave me more energy and endurance to deal with the kids and the new baby girl J.

By Monday David was back to work and I had visitors every day, it was wonderful! People brought us meals and that was a huge help! Transition from 2 to 3 was the easiest for us, David has been so helpful with the boys and with Jasmine. Michael and Ryan adore their new little sister and Jasmine loves to sleep and far so good!



Last week our little girl turned 3 months – healthy, cute, sleeps well. 

She is amazing and I am blessed to have these three little munchkins in my life. 



Being Pregnant with Jasmine inside

Child 3 in the Oven – Oh please let it be a girl…!Image

We got pregnant with our third   – sure surprise – yet when I took the test I was over joyed and super excited initially – then when reality sunk in and doubt and fear of how the heck are we going to have 3 kids – sounds way to stressful. Thankfully I had 8 more months to process it.

During those 8 months – David got laid off, I had to end my job due to having a low immunity to the chicken pox – grant it I worked with school age kids – so perfect environment for the virus. In hind sight – I was so thankful I was able to have those months – including summer – with Michael and Ryan. Summer was filled with many fun filled park days, lazy napping afternoons and lots of time in the back yard and walking the neighborhood for exercise. Then in the fall – Michael started pre-school 4 days a week – giving me time to rest and get things done with Ryan naps for 3 hours each day.

The first trimester was filled with many wives tales which were true for this girl pregnancy.  1) Being nauseas, not to the point of throwing up – thank God! But to the point where nothing really sounded good and felt too sick to eat. Did not lose weight – but stayed healthy. 2) loved and craved fruit – strawberries, bananas, anything fresh and lots of salads! Also could always skip dinner and go straight for dessert – Strawberry short cake was a must! 3) Gained weight all over so just seemed like I was fat not baby belly fat. So exhausted – we watched lots of movies during this time so I could watch/dose off on the couch while the boys watched worth it, whatever it takes to get rest, won’t kill the kids either! David finally found a job in September. Also doing school 4 nights a week – be gone from 8 to 8 M-Th. Dad and Susan treated me to California with no kids! Michael and Ryan stayed the week with their grandparents! Mom and Ron came to visit for a few days as I was 6 weeks pregnant at that point.

The Second trimester – Night and day difference – I had energy! Yet lots of heartburn – still eating healthy – still on track with gaining the right amount of weight for me. With both boys I had gained 40lbs. I was determined to gain between 20 and 30 this time around. Still eating healthy most days and then really enjoying pizza, going out to eat with random gift cards from family. I slept pretty well during this time as well, tired to nap during the day on Michael’s school days. Also cleaned/organized different parts of the garage with my mother in law. Who would come down once a month to help with cleaning and then take the boys for the weekend so David and I could continue to have dates. So thankful for his parents for helping us during this time. Also people didn’t even realize I was pregnant because I was so small.  David still working full time and taking classes at the local community college 4 nights a week, gone from 8 to 8 M-Th. Loved eating sandwiches, salads with feta cheese and ice cream each night. All midwife visits went great. Julie would let Ryan nap at her house and I would go to my appointments and Michael would be in school. Grandma would come to the house while Ryan napped and I would go to my appointments as well. My friend Amber came to visit for the day – haven’t seen her in 5 years!

Third trimester – Home stretch. Getting larger – more noticeable that I am pregnant. I am loving being pregnant – so much fun – fun wardrobe as well. So many people blessed me with maternity clothes. So many random people gave us baby clothes. Anita came down and helped me sort it all and organize it! David’s boss blessed us with a pack n play and a ton off our Target baby registry – what a surprise! So many people sent us gift cards and Christmas was so much fun for the boys this year. They got bikes and trains and books! Family has been so helpful and supportive through all of this. My love language is gifts – so it’s all been so sweet! At this point I still love being pregnant – so tired of the heartburn, finally gave into Tumms – yet should of found them before – they are amazing! Sleeping is more challenging. At 32 weeks the midwives were concerned I was having to many contractions..if I was in labor..would mean a hospital birth and baby would stay in icu for 4 to 6 weeks. No thanks! Turns out I was just dehydrated and since then just drinking lots of water to make the contractions stop..and it worked, thankfully! Julie and grandma helped with watching Ryan here and there for appointments. I gained only 30lbs which I am so proud of myself! I love food, a lot, so this was an accomplishment for me. This trimester was also filled with lots of prayer for the big day and all the events it would in tale!….stay tune!

September 25th was the last intended entry for my blog spot, and low and behold ironically it’s now January 25th and I have an itch to write exactly 4 months later. This will be just a reflection piece over the last four months of breathing and the next four weeks to embrace new life.

(My last post on 11/11/12 was for a friend for an online Journal called the3sixty5 and to keep it and share it I had placed it on my blog but not necessary for my blog)

Looking back at the last four month – Wow – cool – that went fast! Michael has done pre-school, I’ve done a lot of organizing and de-cluttering, Ryan has grown leaps and bounds in his height and vocabulary. David has settled in a job and been focusing on school also spending more time with the boys allowing me to relax and take it easy these past few months of pregnancy. We survived the stress of the holidays, January is soon to be over..need to make it through the Feb 3rd – Super bowl – Ravens, my hometown, is playing the 49ers!…and then have a baby!

Now I am in the home stretch, 3 weeks to go! Still wanting and praying for a 2/14 baby, which I just found out only one and ten babies are due on their due date! We are still on the fence if the baby will be a girl, seeing is believing at this point! The ultra sound tech had a hard time because the baby kept closing her legs..but she was 80% sure baby was a girl. I think it is, but really don’t want to get my hopes up high to be disappointed and cry..just because I have put so much hard work and effort into all these beautiful pink baby clothes and getting everything ready for a girl. Thankfully everything we have people have been sooo generous to help us along with baby number three. I am so thankful, so blessed by everyone’s love, support, encouragement, gifts…it’s been amazing. My love language is gifts if you didn’t know. 😉

As this chapter winds down and a new one begins..hold on to your’s gonna be one hell of a ride, no doubt about that especially with the added estrogen that is to come!

I’m looking very forward to the delivery body and mind are ready! I’m not looking forward to the night time feedings..and lack of sleep..somehow may this baby sleep during the night and not be clingy and wanting to be held all the time during the day! But am looking forward to the losing weight and being done gaining weight!

So long, farewell..a veerder say goodnight…or however that songs goes…next post should be about new baby..hopefully!



(photo below – 36 weeks – Kent Baby shower – Holly 38weeks, Laura – 27 weeks?)


the3six5 Entry 11/11/12

Another rainy day here in Washington state. Got to sleep in this morning (which happens maybe two times at the most each month), it was wonderful! We will be picking up the kids and celebrating my husband David’s birthday tonight. It’s been a really challenging year, but I’m thankful a new chapter will be coming!

I worked on baby shower invitations this weekend. They are so stinking cute! I can’t believe this is the first girl in our family in 54 years – this has to be some record, I should google it sometime!

Service at church this morning was good, even though we were a tad late. The sermon was on the gift of remembering, that remembering God’s faithfulness in the past allows us to trust Him in the present & future.

Our pastor preached from 1 Samuel 17:15-50 in the Old Testament. In the passage, David remembered how God had been with him as a shepherd boy as he protected his dad’s flock from a lion and a bear. Sometime later, he found himself on a battlefield across from Goliath and the vicious Philistine army. In that situation, he had the courage to face the giant because his past experiences gave him the faith to believe that God would come through in his present circumstance.

Reflecting on the message, it dawned on me that sometimes I struggle to remember what God has done in my life. At times God seems distant or silent. But in hindsight, it was really me who’d distanced myself from God. I’d developed an attitude of “I want what I want and I want it now” and became smug thinking I could manage my life better without Him.

I really enjoyed how the message tied into Veterans Day. We celebrate and remember Veterans Day to honor Americans for their service and sacrifice, and pay tribute to the freedom and peace that they helped ensure for our Nation! Sadly, we often take what they fought for for granted.

So, I hope today, we can take a moment to remember what the veterans did for our country. Thinking about that makes me realize how lucky I am to live here in America!


About the author: Shabana is an upbeat, never-a-dull-moment mother of two boys (with one girl on the way). She’s the kind of mom who is more street smart than book smart.Image

Homemade Apple Pie and Pregnancy?: How the two relate in my world…!

Pie Making and Baby Making? What?

As the pie came out of the oven last night at 9pm..I gasp in amazement of how beautiful and flawless it appeared. It then got me thinking about pregnancy, bare with me! For some of you this entry will seem very very far fetched and for others who have ‘labored in love’ I am hoping you will be right along side of me laughing your way through this entry.

You know that feeling when you hold your brand new baby in your arms for the first time? You’re in complete aw that this little ‘bun in the oven’ was growing inside of you for 9 months and two that it is out, complete with all fingers and toes and absolutely flawless to you in this one breathe taking moment. Well, ladies..that is how I felt about that home maid apple pie..gazing down at its beauty, did my hands really just makes this amazing piece of art? Wow! This is maybe the 3rd pie I have ever made in my life. It was at that moment when the pie was cooling off from the hot oven I was captivated and shocked that it turned out this good, it had also slipped my mind how much hard work it was to make the pie!

It took a lot of time and energy to just – pick the apples (thank you Grandma for doing that!) Peeling, cutting and seasoning the apples – may I mind you having to stop every few minutes to help the kids with a  toy or break up a disagreement…lots of interruptions. Then breaking to have dinner, then later putting Ryan to bed..then getting back to that Pie.

The Crust – very intimidating! I looked up some so called ‘easy recipes online, yup nope, then ended up doing the one I already had. It was a huge mess, very sticky batter, wanted to cry and give up, throw it all away and say I am done! We are just going to enjoy the filling and move on!

So my conclusions come to the bottom in this easy to read chart on the matter of how Making an Apple Pie and Pregnancy go hand in hand – have a look!

Making an Apple Pie from Scratch:Sounds easy, fun and exciting! Pregnancy and LaborSounds easy, fun and exciting!
Lots of amazing ingredients! Apples, sugar, butter..ect. Only two – sperm and egg – but it gets the job done!
A lot of hard work and messy! – Picking apples, peeling, slicing, making the perfect buttery dough Sleepless/uncomfortable nights, nausea, headaches, back pain, change in hormones and body structure to list a few. Messy– have you seen a baby being born and or all the diapers that are to follow?
The pie being brought out of the oven, cooling on the counter top. – Breath taking – 1) That my hands were capable of making such a gorgeous looking pie. And 2nd) I literally forgot it took over 4 hours with may interruptions to make a pie and then all the dishes afterwards. After all the contractions and all the pushing, out of me comes this amazing little child, who is in that moment flawless and perfect to gaze upon. As you gaze down at the snuggling peaceful child on your chest you are overwhelmed with how proud and amazed that you were able to deliver this child…and while you forget all about how challenging it was to be pregnant for 9 months..and the whole laboring process from start to finish! Thank God!

With all of that said: Go make a real pie, (no store bought one!) and share it with your Mother while saying Thank you for laboring in love for me, without you, there wouldn’t be me! Love to all!

Happy Fall!

Surprised but not: IKEA 2013

Surprised but not: IKEA 2013

Kids are napping so I stepped out to grab the mail and some Vitamin D. Success! New Ikea 2013 catalog has made it all the way from Maryland to my home in one beautiful piece. After getting home and going through junk mail, I kick my feet up and start browsing through the new, fresh crisp clean catalog.

Highly…unsatisfying! Most of the pages were covered in clutter, it felt very disorganized and poorly put together. Do we all really believe the more things we have, the happier we will be? Sounds like a recipe for disaster, higher blood pressure that comes with a higher card thank you! Let’s take it back notch and embrace the idea that: LESS IS MORE!

What also got to me is the view of the disconnected family, even down to the baby hanging out by himself in his crib in a bright empty room, really? The disconnected and exhausted mom guess from lack of sleep and the stress of wanting more and not having inner peace with her self, lost in her own clutter of her own lives?

I could write more, but my wonderful kids are awake from nap, time to get re-connected and enjoy our simple lives.

Don’t get me wrong, I love the new storage ideas found in the back of the catalog. Great buy at Target for better prices. But the first 80% of the catalog is a perfect picture of America’s household and family housing: Clutter and yet empty for no one to enjoy because we are working so hard to pay the bills to keep up with this American Dream life style.

Great ideas from find at Yard Sales all across America! Thanks Ikea! 

6.11 Entry 2: Giants in the Land

6.11 Entry 2: Giants in the Land

All these Giants in the Land, not sure where exactly to stand. I pray my faith will rise in times of need. That I will not be overcome with the giants in my land. Stress and fear seem so near, but truth be told God you are with me. Your rod and your staff comfort thee. Yes you even you God prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. But you are the one who anoints my head with oil, my cup runs over as I trust in you. Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

After typing, I opened my bible randomly to me (but not to God) and landed upon Psalm 143 (read below) how can I deny God doesn’t exist? When all I see is clearly of how he does guide those who choose to call out upon His name. These verses below is exactly what the above words I typed but in his words back to me..crazy how the bible still matches up and helps in today everyday mundane life of mine, and I love it!

Psalm: 143

Hear my prayer, O Lord;
give ear to my pleas for mercy!
In your faithfulness answer me, in yourrighteousness!
2 Enter not into judgment with your servant,
for no one living is righteous before you.

For the enemy has pursued my soul;
he has crushed my life to the ground;
he has made me sit in darkness like those long dead.
4 Therefore my spirit faints within me;
my heart within me is appalled.

I remember the days of old;
I meditate on all that you have done;
I ponder the work of your hands.
6 I stretch out my hands to you;
my soul thirsts for you like a parched land.Selah

Answer me quickly, O Lord!
My spirit fails!
Hide not your face from me,
lest I be like those who go down to the pit.
8 Let me hear in the morning of your steadfast love,
for in you I trust.
Make me know the way I should go,
for to you I lift up my soul.

Deliver me from my enemies, O Lord!
I have fled to you for refuge.[a]
10 Teach me to do your will,
for you are my God!
Let your good Spirit lead me
on level ground!

11 For your name’s sake, O Lord, preserve my life!
In your righteousness bring my soul out of trouble!
12 And in your steadfast love you will cut off my enemies,
and you will destroy all the adversaries of my soul,
for I am your servant.

Psalm 23: 4- 6

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,[c]
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
6 Surely[d] goodness and mercy[e] shall follow me
all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell[f] in the house of the Lord

Peace and love to all, goodKnight